By Jim Burns, Ph.D.
If you were abused as a child, you need to know that the abuse was absolutely, positively not your fault. This knowledge, in and of itself, may not remove the pain and anger associated with the abuse, but it is a starting place where healing can begin to take place. In the midst of the pain and anger, victims must also take responsibility for how they handle their feelings. Adult survivors of child abuse need someone to talk with in confidence about their feelings. Finding a Christian therapist, counselor or support group is a key step in finding needed healing. This fact sheet is offered to provide a starting place for helping adult survivors of child abuse.
Where to start in the search for a good Christian counselor? I strongly suggest that you speak to your pastor to ask for their recommendation. Many pastors keep a list of counselors that they have confidence in. Alternatively, you might consider asking a trusted friend, if they have knowledge of good counselors in your area.
New Life Ministries: If you haven’t received any recommendations for a counselor, or can’t speak with anyone you know about the abuse you’ve suffered, I suggest that you try calling New Life Ministries (1-800-NEW-LIFE). New Life has a network of counselors throughout the United States.
Books:
The Wounded Heart by Dan B. Allender, NavPress, 1990.
Shattered Dreams by Larry Crabb, Waterbook Press, 2002.
Other Resources:
Christians In Recovery –
Internet community for recovery including abuse.
American Association of Christian Counselors –
website including a “find a counselor” process.
Christian Counselors Directory –
website listing over 1000 counselors and 600 mental health clinics.
Adult Survivors of Child Abuse –
website providing information, resources and how to find support groups.
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